Emotional Investment Can Be Tricky Sometimes to Your Financial and Well Being

 Think about this carefully: there’s no divorce in the Philippines, and getting an annulment costs around 280k and can take 3 to 5 years. Sometimes, the Solicitor General (SolGen) can even block the process. 

In short, if you marry the wrong person, you’re tied to them "forever."And if you meet the right person later on, society might call you “immoral” or accuse you of having an affair. You’ll carry that person's name for the rest of your life. 

So, think about it. Why rush into marriage?

- Is it just to wear a wedding gown?

- To avoid being called someone’s live-in partner?

- To have something to show off by saying, “I’m getting married”?

- So you can finally be their "legal" spouse?

- Because you got pregnant and feel pressured?

- Because you’re scared someone else might take them away?

- Or just to feel secure with them?

But what’s the *cost* of rushing into marriage?  

It’s your life, your heart, your dreams.

What if the man you marry has no goals or ambition in life?  

What if you’re constantly fighting, and he’s already acting out before the wedding?  

Do you really think getting married will magically change him overnight?

And then, what if you get pregnant? How will you provide for a child when he can’t even sustain himself? Worse, what if you end up with someone immature and directionless?

You need to understand the true meaning of marriage.  

A spouse should be:

A partner in life, not a burden.

Someone to share hardships with, not just someone who enjoys the good times.

A partner in your dreams, not someone who destroys them.

A person who helps you "grow", not drags you down.

Someone who prioritizes your "future", not just hanging out with friends.

A person who plans for the "family’s future", not just “we’ll figure it out when the baby comes.”

Someone who makes you "happy", not adds stress to your life.

A person who’s smart about "finances", ensuring the paycheck is enough.

A partner who sticks by you in good times and bad, not someone looking for attention elsewhere.

So before you decide to get married, know your worth. Love yourself enough to be practical in your choices.